Sometimes I feel like posting this wanted sign. I feel like I’m back in the dating world. Trying to find the “perfect” friend who completes me. Now before I offend any of my current friends, let me explain.
See, I met some incredible girls when I was in college. My senior year I had 7 roommates…yes I said 7. We had tons of inside jokes, laughed all the time, and sang and danced to silly songs. But unfortunately these people do not live close. Heck, two of them live across the country. So it’s hard to keep in touch and “hang out” these days especially since I am the only one who has a kid. Most of the people I met in college do not live in my area.
Then there is my friend Meghan. We have been friends since the 6th grade. We have a lot of history together. She’s been there for me during my hard times and I’ve been there for her during hers. She was married and had a kid (while living in Virginia) when I was still in college. And as I have come to find out, it was hard find things in common with someone who does not have a kid, and on top of that not even married. So we grew apart until she moved back to FL. She is currently living here and has a 6-year-old, but that is the hard part. She has a 6-year-old and I have an 8 month old. It’s a little hard to get those two together and “play”. We still talk and hang out, but play dates are out of the picture.
Then there is my newest friend Nicole. She is perfect (and reads my blog. Hi Nicole!) She is a 1st time mom, has a 7 month old (our girls are exactly 1 month apart) and is active like me. You would think I would be in heaven. Here’s the problem. She lives almost an hour away. I know that doesn’t sound that bad, but when you have babies it is hard to spur of the moment say “hey I’m going to stop by”. It doesn’t work that way. As most of you know that turns out to be an all day event. So we try to get together at least once a month and let our babies “play” (but it is mostly for us to get together and have adult interaction).
And lastly I have my friends from church. We are all young married couples with either 1 or 2 kids and have lots in common, but my dilemma is that most of them already have their established friends.
So I feel like I am in between a rock and a hard place. I do have some amazing friends already, but for the reasons stated above, there are issues. And you know what? As soon as I would find a local mommy friend who shares my faith, has babies and our husbands get along, one of us would probably move. It’s a hard stage of life.
Have you had a similar experience? And how do you deal with it?